Bedpost was created with a single goal in mind: to track the fun my wife and I were having in bed and to give me something to reflect upon in the years ahead, to remember specific circumstances that otherwise would have been lost like so much other data about our lives. It’s with this in mind that I built and continue to build this application; I believe that data about ourselves, even data as intimate as what’s happening in our sex lives, can inform us and help us live the lives we want to lead.
I believe sex is vital to a healthy life both mentally and physically, and I believe that any data we record about it should have the strictest privacy applied by default. Many people quickly wrote Bedpost off as a social network despite there never being a single social feature about it, but even as this changes, I aim to maintain a “smart sex” approach that treats sexuality as natural, human, healthy and above all, fun. No one has ever really needed Bedpost in their lives, that’s what makes it fun to work on.
Everyone is entitled to their own sexuality so long as it doesn’t infringe upon the rights and desires of others, but I would really prefer Bedpost not turn into a haven for creepers and self-proclaimed pickup artists although I’m not sure how feasible this is. The goal is not to reduce our partners to simple numbers and ratings, but to help provide insight into sexual adventures, whatever they may be. This is complicated and I would basically ask that any conversation around features like this be steered toward user-configurablity over baked-in conventions. The original Bedpost only supported tags and single-partner encounters for this reason. As we branch out and explore a more robust tool, there are natural places to take things, I’d just ask that we make sure to remind ourselves and our users that the partners are just that, not simply notches on the bedpost, as eponymous as this appears to be.
I believe that all users should have ownership of their data and I also believe that I’m not quite strong enough of a developer to build this all on my own. I also believe that Open Source is the most powerful idea of our generation, and that free software will – and has – change the world for the better. I believe in providing our users with as much freedom as those afforded us by the software we’re using to build. I also believe most users don’t want to host their own software and don’t mind using a hosted service so long as it’s trusted.